To allllllll the readers out there who actually read my little blog ... just want to say THANK YOU & update you guys on a few things.
Recently I co-launched a Youtube Celebrity Magazine/Website with Lynnand .... let's just say I am watching way more youtube videos than I typically watch. And it's disgusting. I stay up till 2 or 3am in the morning now..watching youtube videos. HOWEVER, I completely believe in the potential AWESOMENESS of Whoistubian.com and what it can provide. Because, I mean, IS there a central place for specifically youtube celebrity news/biographies? I think not, my friend!
I figured you guys won't actually visit unless there's a screenshot ---- OOO LOOK! PRETTTTYYY!
We have over 59 likes on there already with only four articles so far! Can I get a hell yeah? Don't hate. D-don't hate!
I have also co-launched a website that provides an actual DIGITAL PRODUCT to help people list faster. So far we have 4 subscribers. That is four living breathing souls who provide monthly payments and as long as they are happy and are still using the product...they will continue to provide monthly payments until they no longer use it anymore. Which could be never! They might pass it down to their grandchildren if we are lucky. One can only dream. Two clients from the US. One from Japan. One from Hong Khong.
I am still worrying about 3500 car parts daily. But it's okay. I will probably use car parts to make comedy skits... one day. Not today. Some day.
I know most of you will probably not give two pieces about what's going on with my life but I wrote this to celebrate the tiny victories so when I look back on my own blog - I will have seen improvement (and not fond memories of a time long ago when I actually had the balls to go and do something).
It's been over a year of doing whatever the hell I want to do... and I've semi-successfully built an automobile dismantling company, started an online magazine-like thing with my friend Lynn, launched an intangible product delivery website with Ron, learned how to rock climb walls that look godly high & managed not to drive a boyfriend too cray. These are TINY accomplishments I need to think about when I am bawling for no reason during T.O.M's irrational visit. These are my little itty bitty tiny teeny bite-sized victories.
This is to counteract urges to stuff my face when I go on facebook and am SLAPPED by everyone's wonderful life. The WANDURLUST/TRAVELING-non-stop vacationers, the YOUTUBE sensations, the ENGAGED & 2-seconds-later MARRIED, the BABY SHOWERED, the JUST-GOT-MATCHED doctor friends, the RICH & BLINGING ballers...
who here feels me? Can I get an amen, brotha?
My next how to post will be..... How to add Ads to your website & probably another random "Who Is.." person. To counteract this NON-how to post.
The other day I got a spam email from an SEO telemarketer critiquing my site as being too "company centric". Obviously he didn't read anything on my site because... does a "company centric" blog site include apoem about sex on their site? I didn't think so.
A good point was made though - that if you go to this site you have no idea where to start or what to read because the topics are so damn varied. Therefore, I've decided to make pages such as "NEWCOMER? START HERE" in the menu as well as ARCHIVE, PROJECTS, and CONTACT.
I've yet to make those pages.
I recently read Mark Manson's post about 3 explanations whyhe thinks single people (who hate being single) are still single (and hating being single).
Let me break it down for you
1) Too high expectations of others while not really being hot shit themselves. Overweight woman expects to date a man with six pack abs for example.
2) Not respecting their health/emotional well being enough to work really hard to be an emotionally and physically healthy individual ... and wondering why they are getting rejected for relationships.
3) Skills for intimacy are not developed yet. Which means they interpret every argument/fight as unbearable & can't feel comfortable in getting close to someone because they don't want to explore themselves on a deeper level and be okay with it.
I agree with all three points.
I think I've been through all of it and the one I struggle the most with is #3.
Why not #1 or #2? I changed myself for the better by hiring a therapist to allow me to see reality clearly when it came to #1 and #2. I got off my ass, exercised more, killed almost 80% of my expectations for people and what they can provide for me - instead I focused on becoming more giving without counting tabs & seeing where it goes when that happens.
#3 is tough. How can you tell your SO that the cause of your pain is them without hurting them in the process? And vice versa? It's difficult. Even if it is delivered at calm times. I think it's because to yourself - you are perfect (or close enough). You've figured out for the most part what makes you happy. And everything else outside of what makes you happy will mean... unhappiness. And unhappiness is not what you want to include in your life.
You don't want to face or even fathom the idea that sometimes.. you are not a good person. Sometimes you are downright selfish. Sometimes you are rude and you act in a way which hurts others unintentionally or otherwise. There are these darker sides to you that resurface once in a while. Although they do not make up the majority of your traits and personality - it hurts to admit to yourself that you are a bad person (sometimes).
I think the more you view yourself as a really good decent honest loving person... and you stick to that ideal rather vehemently... the harder it will be for you to accept any other versions which compromises this image. And anyone who is close enough to see all sides of you will eventually point out the sides you basically ignored for the most part because god forbid you are not THAT guy/girl. Any conversation which would touch upon the subject that maybe you are selfish, mean, horrible sometimes would hurt. A lot.
And when your SO gives two shits about you, you're going to hear the good and the bad. Getting 100% good is nearly impossible. Nothing will be 100% out of the box. And if you expect 100% you are suffering from not only #3 but #1 as well.
Being comfortable enough to explore yourself changes this mentality:
1) OWWW. You remind me sometimes that I am not perfect. That I am rude/mean/inconsiderate sometimes. That I am vengeful/passive aggressive/not 100%/not good enough sometimes. That is NOT okay! I hate this! I want OUT! I guess I am meant to be alone because then I can JUST BE HAPPY! I WAS HAPPY BEFORE THIS!
2) I hear what you are saying & how it hurts you. But I am secure about myself emotionally to know that I am not 100% evil/a bad person. I have good intentions and I see somehow that doesn't translate into my actions. I understand things can be misinterpreted. It's not the end of the world. I'll see if I can approach it differently next time.
Mark says it is the difficult road to emotional stability. Because in order to be healthy mentally you have to work hard at your own humility almost everyday, you have to work hard to be physically healthy (Your self esteem will be greatly influenced if you are not physically healthy), you have to fight every damn battle of irrational thoughts or refrain from behavior that can be misinterpreted.
Does this mean you are losing yourself and your own happiness? I think the struggle is REAL, folks. But you are not losing yourself. You are gaining the ability to be close to someone and be okay with it. This is a very cool skill to have. Why not have the skill where you can be open, accept criticism come what may, still remain positive about life and love and proactively change yourself for the better? Sure, the process will be painful. Sure, you will probably have your ego crushed sometimes. We can either let life hurt us and give us the excuse to stay hurt or we can be okay with what life throws at us because whatever it is... whether it be people who think we are not 100%... whether it be customers who just hate our guts.... or whether it is a big fat LEMON....
you can still make lemonade.
I think making lemonade when life throws you lemons is UNINTENTIONALLY PROFOUND. It is profound because instead of running away from those pack of lemons, you are making something delicious out of them. Happiness then ties into something that's already there & working with it versus discarding it for the next thing that pops up.
The saying could've been... when life gives you lemons... you ... THROW THEM ON THE GROUND.. and go with THE BAG OF APPLES.
(But it's not.)
Yes. Chin pimples = CHIMPLES. Also, I was going to filter myself completely green to resemble the Hulk's bastard child. But I changed my mind last minute.
You know, maybe it is the "No fear of failure" thing that has my adrenaline going. But it might be "Too stupid to say No" syndrome. I plunge into many ideas without knowing much of what's going on hoping that I land on my feet and figuring that I will learn as I go. It is getting ridiculous because at the same time...I fear failure almost everyday.
What's the worst that can happen? I become homeless? I don't WANT to become homeless!
I know I will be able to get a job and start all over again if I fail. So... why not?
Indoor Rocking Climbing at Hanger18 with my gal pal VAL. I know...BLURRY...sorry?
Okay, so you opened your business. And you are getting payments through Paypal because that is the only thing you know. You can do the lame thing and send yourself an invoice with paypal... then take down their credit card numbers... then pay your own invoice with their credit card information...
And let paypal rape you with their 2.9% + $.30 per transaction fees. NOW WHAT?
You can use authorize.net.
A customer randomly wants to pay you with his card... and you have no reader... now what?
You can go online and log into authorize.net.
1) Buy your authorize.net account through a reseller. You cannot buy it directly from them. Why do companies do this? They don't want to deal with customer service any longer and they know they have a product everyone wants. They would rather let their trusted resellers deal with all the customer service. This is a smart move. Here is a list.
Call everyone and haggle for the best prices. Resellers get a percentage cut off of market value so it will be a good situation for you if you can get a large portion of the discount authorize.net gives them.
2) Log into Authorize.net
3 ) Click on Tools
It should look like the below:
4) Authorize.net is a payment gateway that won't rape you with high fees. Card readers like Square ...does. Or any other type of "Free" card readers that gets mailed to you. But hey, if you really don't care - they offer a great convenience. And if you have a store-front where you are getting orders face to face every single day - use a reader because then you can get more money in and keep the lines short.
Here is something I learned later on... which you will learn NOW. You can take payments from people who have cards with international billing addresses. You would have to change some settings... view the screenshot below:
Go to settings --> Address verification service --> uncheck the G, U, S. UNCHECK GUS! Now, viola, you can take an order from anyone living on an international island..for example.
5) Authorize.net can also integrate with your own website. You can create separate log-ins for different people. I created a developer log-in and he goes in and uses the API code Authorize.net provides. Suddenly you can take payments online. You can also do re-occurring billing. Not every customer in the world will have a paypal account so might as well know how to receive payments in other forms!
I hope that helps you guys!
Thanks for the increase in traffic! My worth of web for this website has shot from $215 to...$1493. My goal is to reach $2000. YES, THAT'S ALL I'M WORTH.. ISN'T IT?!??!
My worth of web 7 17 14
In other news... a company I co-launched with a fellow named Ron over a month ago has TWO ACTIVE PAYING subscribers now. WEEEEEEE! TWO SUBSCRIBERS!!!!!!!! Hey, that's better then no subscribers. It gotta start SOMEWHERE.
You guessed it.. This is my second SEO experiment! The first one went so well, I decided to follow up with a biography of Anthony Padilla. He is a tiny bit more popular than Yousef Erakat with 8K searches for his name/month. Unlike other biography pages, I will keep mine short. Very short. Almost frustratingly short.
Anthony Padilla Searches WHOA ALMOST 9,000/MONTH!!!