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How To Get Over Your Fear Of Quitting Your Job

How To Get Over Your Fear Of Quitting Your Job

There was less fear than there was pure unadulterated outrage at my disposition with a 9 to 5.

[I'm sorry, this blog post is in response to quora question "How Do You Get Over Your Fear Of Quitting Your Job To Start A Startup".  Wordpress SEO won't let me have such a long title name.]

This might not just be me, but before I quit I was on a nonstop binge of podcasts or blog posts by Pat Flynn, Tim Ferris, Ramit Sheti, etc.  It was to hype myself up and it took a whole year to hype myself before D day.  It also took over a year because I needed to save up money before I quit (I am not THAT reckless).  This might not work for everyone - but it worked for me.

So let your outrage dominate your fear.

Be outraged for the following reasons:

1) You will most likely be underpaid in comparison to company profits.  They need to pay you less than what you are worth because hey - how else will they pay all that overhead + make a profit?  You are happily slaving away trying to prove yourself anyway... no need to interrupt you with an abrupt raise (just yet).

2) Most businesses close at 5PM.  When you are done working.  How can you have time to do anything else outside of work? (Like chores? Go to the bank? Go to the dentist?)  That's right - you either have to wait for the weekend or you have to take time off of work.

3) There is no guarantee you have your position forever.  So your house + livelihood + everymonthlysubscriptionyouhave are dependent on someone else's whim.  Yes, you can't be fired without just cause but sometimes companies just fail or have reduced clients so they need to lay off some workers to survive.

It's important not to be outraged at the players (your boss and coworkers) but be outraged at THE GAME.

You are simply getting out of the game by choosing not to participate any longer.

Remember this: You can still have a successful business while being employed full time for someone else.  You don't have to quit, really.  Why quit?  Maybe when your successful business requires more of your time  and/or you can realistically imagine a better lifestyle once you quit.

It may be different for everyone but for me quitting was possible because:

1) I saved up enough to quit without breaking down mentally.

2) I started it while I was doing a full time sales job.  I wanted to see if it was even possible for me to do it.

3) I could've worked for another year two (and I should've..would've...could've...) but I wasn't tied down by "golden handcuffs".  If you have a very cushy job than I would consider sticking around while building your business on the side until it makes you just as much as you would be making at your regular job.

Fears I still have:

1) People would not take me too seriously as I am a "girl" in a male dominated industry.  I have no prior knowledge of car parts.  I knew it works because I saw it worked with others and I myself tested it while I was still fully employed.  But even after I started the business and it is mildly successful - I have yet to update my Linkedin profile.  I've yet to make it professional public and I do not feel the need to ever make it public (Unless I'm in my fifties and I am talking about a business I started yonder ago when I was a wee 20 something that blossomed into a multi-million dollar company).  I only started talking about the website half a year after its launch.  When a customer calls in and hears my voice they demand to speak to "anyone over there who knows about car parts" because I am immediately written off (do I sound THAT OUTSOURCED?).  How do I get over this hump?  I am a small fish in a big sea and I don't feel the need to get over any hump.  I just want to swim.

2) Being isolated (instead of being actively surrounded by great minds) might degrade me mentally.  My companions are shop guys who prefer to keep the conversations to the chicks they bang.  There are still... friends from afar. And the internet.

Yes.  I'm cross eyed.  Also - that's a mouse.

Yes. I'm cross eyed in this picture. Also - that's a mouse.  Also - does this resemble one of those Asian horror movies... at all?

Picture of Reed right before his conference.  He just re-learned how to tie a tie.

My handsome man.  Popped collar and all.  He told me not to post this picture, "because this is not what I'm about. I don't condone this type of outfit"... so I made it "small" & not noticeable on this blog. Hehe.

Inspired by James Altucher, I am now answering questions on Quora because I want to become a better writer & Quora is a goldmine of ideas/questions I can just pick and choose from as topics for my blog posts.

I'll post first.  And then apologize for it later. (Did you notice in this blog post I used "than" vs. "then" CORRECTLY?  Yup.  I try.)

How To Still Learn

Keepin' it real with the cotton balls.

How To Still Learn

1) By not quitting.

THE END!

So today I want to discuss several things.  All the things I wrote about earlier... I moved forward in that direction but ended up not doing much of it.  Probably 20% was done.

I tried not buying any cars for this month (October) and decided to "coast"... however.. sales dropped from 11K to 7.5K.

That's what I get when I try to "coast" an automobile dismantling company.

With less to do - I sometimes just spend the whole day reading blogs.

This is not productive.

The lesson learned here is always try new things and you will figure out what works and what doesn't.

What I discovered in my laziness is that spending MORE money by buying cars will create waaaaaay more sales than the savings I get by not purchasing more cars for that particular month.  Sure, I save... $1K by not buying another car.  I just lose $3K in return.  If I did spend that $1K-$2K buying/dismantling that car... I would receive back 4-5K more that month.

THIS IS LIFE.  A constant, continual, learning experience.

Reed told me posting pictures of my feet might be disgusting.  Who cares, I'm posting it below:

Keepin' it real with the cotton balls.

Keepin' it real with the cotton balls.  Look!  Halloween themed, yay!

I went to get a pedicure for the first time in my ENTIRE LIFE with my gal pal Val.  It felt good, but for some reason I didn't feel the necessity of it.  I didn't get this overwhelming itch some females have for this ritual of having to be served by hand and feet from another human being and then painted on for several hours as they gossip about you in a foreign language behind your back.

Maybe I am too manly.  The urge for massages, for manicures, pedicures, etc... does not enter my mind.  Maybe it comes as a more evolved form of "taking care of yourself" and I'm not there yet.  Who knows.  All I know is.. it cost me $37 for 10 rounded tips to be painted another color from the natural color of nude/cracked calloused.  Cracked Calloused is a new color, by the way.

So.. couple of things I've started doing this month:

I started a podcast.  So far it has two episodes.

I am teaming up with an SEO expert to write an eBook which I hope I will publish within this MILLENNIAL.  I tried writing an eBook of my own and it has been 4 years.  It is unpublished, gathering pixelated dust.  And I will publish THIS ebook with errors, flaws and all.  Why?  Because it's better than an unpublished NOTHING while I seek aimlessly for a perfection that will never come.

I sic'ed my team of developer/designer duo on automating superfastlistings.com so that once you sign up, you will automatically get an email detailing you on what to do and what information to input.  After information is inputed then stage 2 is commenced.  Before that I used to personally send out every welcome email (a copy and paste procedure) that was not necessary but since I was too busy to delegate this task out - it was never done.  TILL NOW.  They have yet to finish.  I hope to have it wrapped up by the end of this week.

I am going to revamp my mailing list once and for all.

I started meal prepping for the week and I am getting better at it.  Meal prepping is great!

Below are more pictures from my night out with my gal pal Val.  I ordered all the sushi.  Valerie is a vegetarian.  I think I had 7 plates to her 1.

LESSONS BE DAMNED:

1) I best be buyin' them cars or else I will be losin' 'em sales!

2) I do not work well ALONE.  In whatever capacity.  I need people because with people I actually push myself harder.

3) Posts/Podcasts/Listings/Company stuff/Managing developers/Ebook writing/etc. = all are lumped into a massive workload.  When sometimes I prefer just sitting by myself watching to stand up comedy and reading blogs at my leisure the entire day.  The only way to do stuff is to do it and get'er done. (I don't know why I chose this particular vernacular right now with all the shortened words.... but it's fun to me at the moment.  Please don't rain on my PARADE!).

4) For my birthday (I just turned 28 years young) I chose to scale a 770 foot wall of rock.  And it was massively fun.  I recently spoke to a friend, just catching up on life (because that's what friends do sometimes when it's around your birthday and they glance your way since they received  some facebook notification)... this was how the convo went:

Friend: "How's life Kim?"

Me: "Good."

Friend: "I've been so busy.  I work 3 jobs and 16 hour work days."

Me: "So far I am trying to run 2 businesses but I work around 20 hours of real work a week. I sometimes spend all day reading blogs."

Friend: "I barely have time to date but when I do I can't devote any time to these women who want my attention."

Me:"I just recently climbed a 700 foot wall in Nevada & I now have some time to make room for more of a relationship."

Friend:"Wow, our lives are so opposite."

I want to say yes to more life experiences at the same time I want to continue building businesses.  I want to work really hard but I want to spend all day lying on a couch in my warehouse.  Some friends have figured it out and I am envious because sometimes I find myself questioning life way too much.

I am not afraid to want random opposite things and trying out a bunch of different stuff.  I'm not afraid to posting pictures of my feet on the internet.  I'm not afraid to fail.  And that is how I still learn.

 

Enjoy the pictures below.

Our only picture together - and it's blurry.

Our only picture together - and it's blurry.

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Sushi

SAKEEEEE

 

All my dishes were served before Val got her VEGETARIAN roll (which is barely called food.)

All my dishes were served before Val got her VEGETARIAN roll (which is barely called food.)

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